Live To Marry? Marry To Live?

I had attended quite a few gatherings over the past few weeks.

One ultimate question would pop up: "Are you married?"

No, it is not about getting married for the sake of being married.

And I forsee the trend in years to come would be: "Have you divorced? "
(Heaven forbids!)

One of my friend, married for less than two years, wondered why on earth did he ever choose to marry.
He would be working shift. She would be working too, except that she flies very often. The mode of communication for them would be via 3G phone or MSN etc.

"Why did you ever get married?" I asked him.

He was being honest with me.

"I don't know why the F*** I get married."

Very subtly, he hinted that she had been good to him. She was attentive, sweet, and would always be there for him, day and night. Now you heard me.

He, on the other hand, was happy to be woo-ed, so called in the above manner. He felt happiness when loved. Yes, he has given up pursing the love of his life. Instead, he took the backseat and waited to be loved.

Born in 1974, he was old enough to make sound decisions. I did what I could. Be his listening ears... ...

... ...To quote a caption from one of my friend in friendster:


Happiness Is A Decision

I agree. It is about making the right decision. And I believe everyone has a choice to make.

Other people's "right" decision may be something else to me.
Other people's "right" decision may be trash to me.



You do not marry a dumb ass.
You do not marry a male chauvinist.
You do not marry a slacker.

You marry a companion.
You marry a soulmate.
You marry a human being who is optimistic with life.

(1) Marry to Live ?

(2) Live to Marry ?

I'd leave the conclusion to you.